Hold on! Before you even start thinking that this article is not going to be relatable in any sense, let’s just agree that no mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship in the history of marriages has ever been that easy. We have already seen and heard multiple stories about how daughter-in-laws ALWAYS seem to be the ones to suffer. The discussion is usually about how difficult it is for us to deal with mother-in-laws and those rare cases where they talk about mother-in-laws who are nice to their son’s wife.
Whether your mother-in-law is the best in the world or one who is very hard to deal with, here are a couple of things every mother-in-law may not tell you but wants you to know:
1. “Nobody is perfect. I know I have made mistakes.”
Humans tend to make mistakes and we are all humans after all. If she hurt you in any way, then she wants you to find a way to let her know about it gently. You could even ask her if there is anything you may have done wrong. Talking things out will help resolve the issues and bring the two of you closer.
2. “There are two sides to every story.”
It may be hard to accept that your own husband’s mom sometimes treats you like an outsider. Every woman has had to deal with a difficult mother-in-law. Your mother-in-law may have a tale of her own. Though it is not a reason for her to treat you badly, it doesn’t hurt to find out why she acts the way she does. Spend time with her and get to know her.
3. “Remember that I am still his mother.”
Be considerate of the fact that once upon a time, your husband’s world revolved around his mother. All she wants is for you to love him unconditionally the way she still does and for you to look after him and be there for him always.
4. "I wish you would call me or just talk to me."
She would love it if you sought her advice or opinion every once in awhile. You don’t have to take her advice - just hear her out. When you are free from work and have some time to spare, it would mean the world to her if you called her up just to chat. You could talk and ask about anything - strike up a conversation about your husband’s childhood for instance. It would warm her heart to talk about it.
5. "I want to know you and my grandkids."
All she wants is to get to know you and the kids. She is always going to be a part of yours and your husband’s lives. So, spend more time with her and be nice to her. It is important that your kids have a good relationship with their grandmother. She would be able to teach a couple of things you didn’t know yourself. Don’t bother questioning her parenting skills - she was the one who brought up your husband after all.
6. "Remember that we are family."
At the end of the day, no matter how many times you may argue or disagree with your mother-in-law, she is family. She has been a major part of your husband’s life and is now a part of yours. It is best that you make peace with her and accept her as a family. This means inviting her to all the events and functions on your side of the family. You could even go shopping together and share family stories with each other.