One normally associates a happy marriage with being romantic and happy - no fights whatsoever. Remember the week right after you got married? The times when your husband would do everything in his ability to keep you feeling happy and loved? Well, 5 years into the marriage, he may not show his love and affection as he once did. But you can still be happily married despite not being on your honeymoon phase.
You have shared so many good and bad times together. You have probably seen him at his worst and he, at yours. He probably feels that since you have both stuck by each other even through all of that, he doesn’t have to keep expressing his love for you. Looking at it practically, you don’t really have the time to be all romantic the way you used to be. Although you do understand it, you probably miss those good old days, don’t you?
The rules for a happy marriage are really quite simple. Here are some tips for a happy married life:
1. Love And Commitment
This is the key to a strong marriage. It is easy to feel like your marriage is happy and strong when all is going well. The true test of the level of commitment in a marriage is enduring tough times and how you get through them together. It takes a lot of work because it is during those hard times that you get to see the worst side of your partner. The decision to love him and stay with him is what commitment is all about.
2. Trust And Compassion
It takes a long time to build trust in a relationship. If you break it, it takes even longer to build it back. This is what makes it the most delicate and important part of a relationship. This starts with all those small promises you make with each other. It also means doing what you say you will do and not letting your partner down.
3. Being Selfless
When you are married, you need to be selfless and committed. This means, looking after yourself but also being there for your partner when they need you. A marriage can fall apart if either of you is selfish. You have to make time for each other and do what is best for each other and the family.
4. Patience And Forgiveness
A marriage takes a whole lot of patience to make it work. You learn to show patience and forgiveness when you accept each other’s mistakes or faults. We are all human and we do make mistakes. You need to love them unconditionally and be there for them.
5. Communication And Openness
In a happy marriage, the partners communicate with each other as much as possible. Communication actually plays a huge role in everything else in a marriage. It is what brings two people closer together in terms of love, support and trust. A happily married couple will talk about everything - their dreams, goals and even their deepest fears or insecurities.