There is no denying to the fact that parenting is one of the toughest jobs in the world. The psychologists and experts have identified four parenting styles and every parent falls into one of these categories. The four categories are authoritative, authoritarian, permissive, and uninvolved. Identifying where you belong could be a great way to know and understand what you should do to become a better parent.
Authoritarian parents firmly believe in ‘spare the rod, spoil the child’ philosophy. They think that they are the supreme authority and a child should follow their orders and rules without any questions or exceptions. They are not interested in negotiating with a child and do not take the feelings of the child into any consideration. A child’s opinion is of no value to an authoritarian parent, instead, they impose rules and enforce consequences without any regard for it. These parents use punishment instead of discipline. So instead of making a child learn from his or her mistake, they are actually interested in making them feel sorry for their mistake. Children who grow under the influence of authoritarian parents often have a problem in developing self-esteem. They sometimes also become aggressive or hostile. Such children also become good liars in order to avoid punishments. Also, rather than thinking of doing better in the future, they tend to focus on the anger they have for their parents.
This style of parenting is considered to be the most effective one. These parents put a lot of effort into creating and maintaining a friendly and positive relationship with their child. Whenever they create a rule for a child, they explain the reason for doing so. They may enforce the consequences but always take care of child’s feeling too. They validate the child’s feelings but also make clear that the adults are in charge. As said, they invest time and energy to deal with the behaviour problems, and most of the times they prevent such problems even before they start. They make use of positive discipline strategies, like praise and rewards, to reinforce good behaviour. Children raised by such parenting techniques grow up to be happy and successful. They tend to be better at making decisions and evaluating risks on their own. These kids become responsible adults who are comfortable with expressing their opinions.
These parents tend to think that a child will learn best with the least interference from them. Permissive parents are lenient, and let the children figure out things for themselves, stepping in only when there is a serious problem. They are quite forgiving in nature, and when they do use consequences, they may not make the consequences stick if the child begs or promises to be good. They are more of a friend than a parent to the child. They encourage the child to speak freely about his or her feelings and share the problems the children are facing. However, such parents do not put much effort into the discouragement of bad behaviour and poor choices. Such kids often turn out poor academically and may show behavioural problems because they are not used to authority and rules. Surprisingly, such kids have low self-esteem and show sadness. Due to lack of the supervision of food habits, these kids often suffer from health issues like obesity, and dental problems.
These parents have a little knowledge about their kids and what they are doing. They do not spend much time with their children and rarely know where their child is or who is he or she with. These parents do not impose many rules. Children are at a lack of nurturing, guidance, and parental attention. Uninvolved parents expect the children to grow up by themselves and do not spend much energy or time for the child’s basic needs. They are neglectful of their child, but it is not always intentional. The parents may themselves be suffering from mental health issues or problems of substance abuse. At other times, the parents may be in lack of knowledge about a child’s development. Sometimes, they may be just too busy and overwhelmed by their own problems. Kids growing up with uninvolved parents suffer from self-esteem issues. They rank low in happiness and exhibit behavioural problems frequently.