As a parent, people are constantly giving you advice on raising your kids properly. But what is more important is how your relationship with your son stands because as they grow, sons could become difficult to deal with. You really have to make conscious effort to nurture this relationship towards positivity. You want to make sure that your little boy knows that you will always be there for him. Here are some tips that will help you to build a strong and healthy relationship with your son.
Build a friendship
Treat your son like you would treat your best friend. More importantly, nothing could be better than having your son as your best friend in the long walk of life, because then you both will always be each other’s support system as best friends are. Parents should try to establish the same level of civility with their son as they do with their friends.
Pledge your undying support
Your son should know that whatever the matter be, you are there for him. Show him that you are on his side and it does not matter if he is right or wrong, he can always turn to you for help; you will never disappoint him. You should be his ‘go – to’ person who makes things better for him.
Trust and respect should be mutual
You cannot expect your son to respect you and never question your decisions if you do not do the same. Trust and respect are a two – way road. You need to trust his instincts about his life sometimes. Also, if he makes any suggestions to your decisions, you should at least regard them with respect and listen to him patiently. If you do this, your son will also learn to listen to you and respect your judgment. This will also play a huge role in his emotional development.
Talk to him
Go out on walks, or sit on the terrace with your son. Spend some quality time doing something that he really enjoys. And while you are at it, talk to him one – on – one. Talk about anything you feel like – his life, his friends, his interests, etc. Try to get him to open up to you, and then when he talks, be sure to really listen to him. It is important that he knows he can come to you with his concerns and problems.
Give him independence
As your boy gets older, you should learn to let go of certain things and let him take care of them on his own, rather than forcing him to do things your way. He needs to make his own mistakes to learn his own lessons. Also, you should know that there are certain things that he would like to keep to himself and that he too has a personal life. You should respect his privacy and not pry into it. However, if he comes to you with one of his personal situation, listen to him ardently, and try to be as tactful as possible.
Be open about your life
When your son is having a hard time in his life, let him know that he is not alone. Tell him that he is not the only one to make mistakes or face failure. Open up about your downfalls and mistakes you made in your life. Reinforce the idea that no one is perfect. This will make your son comfortable and confident to face difficulties in life.