Nobody’s perfect, especially when it comes to raising kids. We try really hard, but with all the advice we’re given from various sources, it simply isn’t possible to meet all those expectations to avoid all those activities. This is why a lot of parents find it difficult to judge whether or not they’re doing the essential correct things to raise their kids right. If you’re concerned about whether or not you’re raising a spoilt child, here are a few evident indicators that suggest that your child is heading down the path of becoming spoilt.
Do you keep giving your child gifts and toys and clothes? If parents give their kids these material things very often, kids start to expect these things. If they aren’t given gifts and presents, they may throw a tantrum or show their anger in other ways. If your child reacts this way, it’s safe to say that they’re becoming spoilt.
If you give in to your child’s demands every time they’re made, you’re most likely putting your child on the path to being spoiled. Just like the random gifts, your child will develop the belief that every time he/she makes a demand, it’s going to be fulfilled. This will lead to the development of false beliefs about how the world works and the inability to cope or deal with situations which contradict these beliefs.
Sometimes, you may find that the most effective way to get your child to do something is to bribe them with toys or gifts or other things that they may want like going to the amusement park or being allowed to play video games an extra hour. If you find yourself having to bribe your child increasingly in order to get him/her to do something, your child is probably getting spoilt. They start believing that in order for them to do something, they need to get something in return.
Protecting your child from emotional distress is a prominent sign that you’re leading your child down the path of spoiling. If you find yourself constantly fighting your child’s battles such as fights with friends or if you overcompensate every time your child is sad or scolded, your little one will grow up not knowing how to fight their own battles. Your child will never be able to deal with situations that are even the slightest bit stressful on his/her emotions.
Children have a tendency to throw tantrums until they are taught otherwise. You must learn to deal with these problems in an efficient manner in order to reinforce the idea that tantrums will not be accepted and that there are always better solutions to problems. If you give in to tantrums, your child will always use tantrums to deal with problems and you’ll be left with a very spoilt and difficult child.
Make sure that your child learns that every action has a consequence. If your child engages in bad behaviour and you let it go, you’re teaching your kid that they can get away with doing things that are probably socially unacceptable.
Does your child often act disrespectfully towards you or other people? Your child might have picked this up because of lack of consequences or correction of bad behaviour. If it isn’t corrected early, this lack of respect will continue throughout your kid’s life with other people as well, earning your child a bad reputation and possible signs of aggression and bullying in school and amongst friends. Disrespect can show in itself in the form of your little one raising their voice at you and ordering you around.
When it comes to parenting, psychology says there are 4 different styles. If you are exhibiting the above behaviours, chances are that you’re an indulgent or passive parent. If you feel like your child has been exhibiting most of the above behaviours, you may want to rethink your parenting style. WARNING. Take the next exit off the current route.