Family is the most important thing for any human, be it a small child or an old man. Family teaches us the value of life and protects us from any harm, and most importantly, it becomes a support on which we can always depend. Though there are a lot of benefits of living in a joint family, there are some limitations too and “compromise” often tends to become the most famous word. Like everything else, living in a joint family too can be both good and sometimes, not proper for your child’s upbringing.
We have made a list of some of the pros and cons of living in a joint family.
1. Experience and help in raising the child
Every new parent needs help in getting to know how parenting works and how a child should be taken care of. Who better to teach you about raising a child than your own parents? Having experienced people in the house is always of great help when it comes to raising a child.
2. No loneliness
Being an only child can be quite lonely at times if you are in a nuclear family. However, in a joint family, your child gets the company of his/her cousins and can play all s/he wants.
3. Babysitters at any time
Being in a joint family, you will never have to worry about leaving your child home alone at any time. You can do your work or go anywhere you want to easily. Your child will be enjoying and properly taken care of until you come back, as everyone at home will take care of your child as though s/he were their own.
4. Extra teachers for your child
While in a nuclear family, you are the only teacher for your child at home. In a joint family, your child gets to learn from everyone around him/her and so, receives more knowledge, including from the people who raised you.
1. Comparison between children
It is often seen that children living in joint families tend to be compared with each other more than children living in nuclear families. Since all the children are under the same roof, their merits and demerits come in front of every family member and they are compared at both a conscious and subconscious level.
2. Manipulativeness in children
Children living in joint families often tend to become manipulative, as they are able to pitch the elders against each other and get away with everything they want or do. This trait leads to a poor lifestyle in the later stages of life and should thus be prevented from developing in children.
3. Too many bosses
In a joint family, there are many adults. Therefore, the child tends to get confused about whom to listen to. Sometimes, the grandparents tend to undermine the authority of the mother or father, as they think they have more experience in raising a child. This can result in the child forming different opinions about his/her parents and grandparents.
Being in any family has its own advantages and disadvantages, but it's your own comfort, flexibility and adjustment capability that decides whether you should raise your child in a joint family or nuclear. However, no matter what you choose, always remember that everyone needs the help of someone else and the only people who are selfless enough to help you throughout are your own family members.