There might be times when your child is struggling to keep up with school, be it academically, emotionally or socially. It might be something as small as not writing on the lines perfectly or your child’s refusal to read anything at all. Whatever the case, before you take any drastic measures, hear us out.
The “standards” with which a kid’s performance is compared to in our educational system are all wrong. In fact, there should be no standards when it comes to learning.
If your child is getting a C in science, but is really interested in science programs on the telly and will start exploring insects and flowers when you take him/her to a park, does that mean s/he’s failed to learn anything?
If you find that s/he lacks interest in a particular area, then inspire him/her to learn about it. The two important things to teach your child are curiosity and confidence. They will take care of the rest on their own, and at their own pace.
Despite all of this, there’s no denying that parents have a major role in a child’s learning process. Here are a few things you can do to help your child.
1. Ask them about their day
In the beginning, if you ask a question like ‘how was your day?', all you might get from your child is ‘fine’. But don’t let this bring you down. Try constantly to find out about what they learnt in school, if he/she’s having any problems and if they need your help with anything.
2. Basic skills
Small things like tying shoelaces, zipping up the jacket and being able to use a language to communicate efficiently need to be taught at home. Your child’s school may go deep into things like maths and science, but it’s the basic skills that may be holding your child back.
3. Family time is important
Your child might come from school and just sit in front of the television, or slip into the room and keep themselves detached from the outside world. Establish a family time that shouldn’t be missed at any cost - be it dinner or just a walk in the park every day. This will promote healthy communication between you and your child. Maybe something’s stressing them out and this will be the perfect time for them to open up about it.
4. Help them with their homework
We’re not saying that you do their homework for them. In fact, this will be the opposite of helping your child learn. Just sit with them and give them ideas and suggestions as they do their homework. Help them with their thought process. If you notice anything wrong, do not tell them directly. Hint at it and help them find out their mistakes on their own.
5. DO NOT compare
As parents, the worst thing you can do for your child is comparing him/her with others. Every child is unique and so is their learning process. A fellow classmate’s better performance is not indicative of a brighter future for that child than your kid. After all, even Einstein was considered a poor student. It is important that you be patient with your child and never do or say anything that may demotivate him/her.