Parenting: Inculcating Traditional Values For Modern Days Kids
All of us believe in values or ethics ,which is very important for any individual, as a part of their daily lives. Children learn most of the values socially, emotionally and academically. Inculcating basic values and moral responsibility in a child should be a priority for all parents. Parenting is not like a 9–5 job. It is never ending and there is never enough time to do everything. No matter how old your baby is, newborn or toddler, it is never too late to put your child first and enjoy being a parent.In the good old days, life as a child and a teenager was never stressful because there were not too many expectations to fulfil. But children these days, especially those in urban areas, seem to have so many things to do and compete in that they are deprived of a normal childhood. Many people fail to realize that as parents, they have certain rights and also responsibilities. The child has his or her rights and responsibilities too. Parents should therefore be realistic and practical.They should not set targets which they know are unreasonable for their child, thus avoiding unnecessary stress and disappointments to the family. Building a happy family is a continuous process.
Irrespective of modern days or olden days, it is the responsibility of parents for the well-being and up-bringing of your child. If the child grows up to be a strong, healthy and useful citizen, it is the result of your efforts. If the child grows up to be a slacker, it is you who must bear the responsibility. Blaming others is pointless. As parents, it is your duty to guide your child onto a proper path. Although there are a few incorrigible cases of juvenile delinquency, nevertheless as parents, you are morally responsible for the behavior of your children. Parents sometimes are to be blamed for unwittingly inculcating negative social habits in their children. For instance, a parent who asks a child to say that he or she is not in when answering a phone call (a seemingly innocent act) plants the first seed of falsehood in the tender mind of the child. If allowed to flourish in an environment not conducive to promoting human values, the child may well in the future, become a destructive element to the peace, happiness and well being of families and society, and more importantly, to himself.
Also, providing the child with all sort of sophisticated modern toys (as a form of appeasement) such as tanks, machine guns, pistols, or swords are detrimental to character formation and not psychologically advisable. Showering a child with such toys is no substitute for a mother’s tender love and affection. The child as a result, is unwittingly taught to condone aggression and destruction instead of being taught to be kind, compassionate and helpful. Such a child will develop violent tendencies as they grow up. Devoid of parental affection and guidance, it will not be surprising if the child subsequently grows up to be a delinquent. Then, who is to be blamed for bringing up such a wayward child? The parents, of course.
Old is gold, it is always said. Times are changing fast. Values are eroding. Goodness is replaced and it is now measured by smartness to get on with life. We have become excessively vigilant, touchy and more suspicious for no real reason. Today, we frisk everyone, inwardly at least. Though today’s material comforts — that could not even be dreamt of a decade ago — are aplenty, still something is amiss about life. What is it? Peace? Happiness? Values/ Ethics / Lack of socialization ? Family bondage ? Whatever it is, parents have an important role to play in bringing up their children and doing it well if they want to help ease the many ills plaguing our society today. Good values cannot be taught through words, but by example. Parents must be good models themselves. The old parental attitude of ‘you do whatever father tells you to do and not what he does,’ does hold good at times. But parents must be of the right character themselves. If we want our children to begin life well with the proper values, we have to start and conduct at home.