"Having a baby is wonderful" - says someone who has never had a kid before.
Well, babies are wonderful and they are a gift and all that but the emotions that come along with having a baby aren’t always happy. Sure, we always dreamed of becoming a mom. But all the roles and responsibilities that come with it can be overwhelming especially when it seems like there is nobody ready to offer a helping hand.
Any form of depression is hard. Nobody seems to truly understand what you are going through, even if they do care and want to help you. Your loved ones will try to tell you that it’s just a phase and that everything will be alright, soon enough. But the warmth and comfort that this sentence gives are zero.
If only they could really see what it’s like to feel this way. If only there were other people who went through something similar. If only we could talk about it to another mother who is going through this right now. Well, there are multiple ways how you could reach out and get help from people who have all been through something similar.
Step 1: Acceptance
The first step to recovery is recognizing and accepting that you indeed do have a problem that needs to be resolved. Once you decide that you need help, and accept it wholeheartedly, you can start trying to get help.
Step 2: Avoid isolation
When you are sad, the days feel longer and bland, making you feel isolated. To reverse this feeling, you should start speaking up. Try talking to your friends and family if you haven’t done so already. Then, take a step further and meet up with other moms who are going through a similar phase in their life or has already been through it. Joining a mom community or a mom group can help you find the help you need.
Step 3: Focus on yourself
When you are wallowing and drowning yourself in self-pity, it is easy to forget about looking after yourself. Take time to do things that you enjoy doing. If you haven’t been focusing on your health, start now. Look after your skin, hair and body. Meditating for just 5 minutes can make a difference. Get active for at least 20 minutes, not by doing chores, but doing something you enjoy - going out for a walk, trying some new yoga poses, dancing to your favourite songs, etc.
Step 4: Eat Right
Technically speaking, this should go along with the previous point but given the fact that depression is closely associated with poor eating habits, this point needs to be stressed on. You may already know that eating healthy food during the first few weeks postpartum is crucial to both you and your baby. Your baby’s nutrition needs are met by what you eat. Even if you aren’t breastfeeding, not eating properly can worsen your mood and make you feel worse. If you are finding it difficult to eat, or are having problems with digesting the food, consult a doctor about it.
Step 5: Meet A Doctor
If it has been more than a month since you gave birth and you still have the baby blues, now is the best time to consult a doctor. Don’t delay it - the sooner you get help, the better. If the depression does not go away in a matter of weeks, it could result in chronic depression. Mental health is precious and your doctor could be your saviour.
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