A happy marriage stands on its two pillars; wife and the husband. They share responsibilities and they dare to look beyond their imperfections to make their married life a beautiful journey. The reason you are here and reading this article itself reflects clearly that you are already a wonderful husband who is trying to be the best husband a wife could ever ask for. Which is indeed a great thing. In my previous article, I tried explaining what it takes to be a good wife to contribute to a happy marriage. Now it’s your turn dear husband. Let us explore the qualities of a good husband and find out how to be a good husband.
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1. Say 'No' To Criticism And Frequent Complaints
If you are a husband who is into criticism then its high time to stop. It might appear as a difficult thing to do in the beginning but it is a must for a good husband and wife relationship. Try being gentle and soft with your tone. If you find there is something not rightly done or there is some fault, talk to your wife about it instead of being critical. Choose your words carefully. If you do this your wife would certainly appreciate it which in turn would make your relationship stronger.
2. Be Her Best Friend
Your wife may have many friends to hang around or to have a chit chat. She may enjoy going out with them whether it’s for shopping or a movie or a kitty party. However, make sure that she turns to you when it comes to making serious decisions. Make sure she looks for you whenever in some problem or despair. Be with her in all her difficult times like her best friend. Exactly the way she stands for you as your best friend in your times of need. This would make her consider you like the best husband she could have ever asked for.
3. Be A Good Husband By Saying 'I Love You' More Often
Whether she admits it or not, but she definitely wants to hear the words 'I love you' from you as often as possible. Do not undermine the importance of these three magical words if you think that you are married for years and these things are meant for only young couples. Years in marriage should not stop you from expressing your love for your wife through words. For a happy marriage it is important that you feel young at heart, continue to flirt with your wife and enjoy every bit of your married life with the same zeal.
4. Make Her Feel Special
Be a good husband and remember her special days, her birthday, your wedding anniversary, engagement anniversary etc. and make a point to celebrate them together. In our busy schedules remembering these dates in itself is a deal and your wife also understands it. She would definitely love you more for this gesture. To make her feel special you can also try the following things:
‣ Leave a love note at the beginning of her special day
‣ Send her loving messages
‣ Make the bed and put flowers on her pillow
‣ Make breakfast for her before she wakes up.
5. Make Her Your Passion
Inculcate the passion to be a great husband. Maybe in a similar way what you have for your sport or a videogame. Show your passion for her as well. Give her independence, bring her a smile and create a passion in you for her happiness. Allow her to spend time with her parents, siblings and her friends. Give her space to feel independent. Spend quality time with her. Join her in her favourite activities may be some movie of her choice. Take her out on a date, you need not wait for an occasion for this.
6. Appreciate Her For Her Efforts
If you want to be a good husband; you will always find opportunities to show your appreciation towards her. You can begin by saying simple words like ‘thank you’ and please. Include them in your daily conversation. Say thanks to her when she cooks for the family, say thanks when she wakes in the middle of the night to attend to the crying child. Say thanks when she joins you in your friends group or spends quality time in the sport of your choice. Don't you think she deserves this much or maybe more?
7. Compliments Are Compulsory
Every woman loves compliment irrespective of her age. Do not miss any chance to compliment your wife if you aspire to be a good husband. Compliment her for the way she looks today, compliment her for her hairstyle, her new dress, her new shoes or her perfume. She is going to love all of them. Also, this would make her feel wanted and in turn would make your married life romantic.
8. Hold Her Hand
Stay close to your wife even when it does not relate to getting intimate. Else, you would lose your chance to stand as a great husband. Women feel satisfied when they find their husband physically affectionate even in a subtle way. Hold her hands, rest your hand on her things, your head on her shoulders, your arm around her, touch her hairs gently. This would make her feel the closeness and how much she means to you. This gentle touch is considered to be very important when it comes to a good husband and wife relationship.
9. Possess All The Qualities Of A Good Husband
Be supportive, confident, positive and understanding. Support her in her decisions whether its personal or professional. Work like a team. Be trustworthy. Stay away from infidelity. Love her parents the way she does. Stand with her always and make her feel that you are lucky to have her as your life partner.
[Also Read: 5 Qualities Of A Good Father And Husband]
No one in this world is perfect; however, an attempt to move towards perfection in itself is commendable. Same goes for a happy marriage too. When a husband wants to be the best in his role all he needs to do is to possess the qualities of a good husband like loving his wife, understand her, support her, appreciate her and stand with her no matter what comes in the way.