Baby’s are difficult things, you already know this. By the age of one, they may develop a tendency to throw tantrums which could leave you on edge. As a parent, you’ve got to remember that it’s your job to make the tantrums stop. Keep in mind that these little angels that you’ve brought into the world have no other way of communicating their complicated needs to you… apart from throwing these tantrums.
Dealing with it means making it stop, by giving your baby what is wanted, by making your offspring not want that something, or by teaching them that it’s not OK to throw tantrums.
The most effective way to deal with any bad thing is to prevent it from happening in the first place. The same goes for raising your child. The best way to deal with a tantrum is to prevent it from happening in the first place. To make this happen, you’re going to need to do a bit of homework. You have to figure out what it is that triggers and ticks off your baby, more often than not. Identifying these will help you get rid of them if they’re ever present in any situation. Another way of preventing a tantrum is to make sure that your baby is fed, napped, burped, and played with, on time. Put your baby down for naps after some time of playing, or give your little one some milk or something to munch on if she/he hasn’t had anything in a while. This could help prevent any crankiness due to these reasons.
If it’s too late for prevention, the next best thing to do is identify the reason for the tantrum that is underway, and fix it. In the case of hunger and sleep, with babies, it’s more advisable to give them what they need. If you’ve got a hungry baby on your hands, best to feed it without further delay. Same with sleepy babies. Try to get this done as soon as possible, because the longer you wait, the crankier they get!
It’s extremely important for you to keep a cool head in a tantrum situation. The last thing needed is for you to lose your cool, because that’ll only agitate your baby more. If your child senses that you’re angry or upset, they’ll get more upset. Apart from that, it’s hard to think clearly and find solutions if you’re head is too full of frustration.
4.Keep calm and deal:
Be calm, or at least pretend to be calm. Once your baby sees that you’re calm, he/she will instinctively calm down a bit, as well. This is because, seeing you in a calm state will make them believe that there is no reason to worry or that everything is going to be alright. After all, if their parents aren’t worrying, what reason would they have? This could make the tantrum situation easier to diffuse.
Sometimes, the best thing to do is to do nothing. That may mean having to deal with a good hour of crying, but once your baby is all cried out, the tantrum stops. Sometimes, you may not be able to identify what a tantrum is about and all other efforts to stop it may fail. In such a case, all you can do is to be there for your baby. Trying to stop the tantrum might make it worse, so just let the little one get it all out.
6.Talk it out:
It may so happen that your baby likes to deal with problems in a more adult way than many adults: talking it out. Many times, showing your child that you care by asking them what’s upsetting them can, itself, stave off a full-blown tantrum. Being asked directly, makes them feel understood and heard and creates an open line of communication and problem-solving.
7.It must have been love:
No matter what, make sure your baby knows that you love her/him. Even if you seem unable to help, hold your baby close to show that you’re there. Do not shout or get angry. Hug your child and express your love. When your child engages in good behaviour, moving away from the tantrums, give them a reward. This will not only make them feel like you’re appreciating them, but it’ll also reinforce the good behaviour.
It’s important to gauge the situation and take into account your child’s temperament when you’re dealing with tantrums. Different babies function differently in different contexts. While some solution may work in one context, it may not work in another, so you’ll have to find something that does. What’s most important is to keep your head and wits about you.
There’s no use of having a frustrated baby and frustrated parents. As far as you can, try to prevent tantrums by being vigilant about your baby’s needs and tantrum triggers.