There has constantly been a war between the ideas of stay-at-home mothers and working mothers. It is quite painful and shameful that we have been dividing and categorizing motherhood into two. Motherhood is one true spirit and it has no expiration date.
It is quite a pitiful event when you hear people secretly dissing the stay at home moms. They have the tendency to boast about their work-life and the fact that they have been busy with work and that they have a life outside of their homes. In simple words, you can call it ‘Mom Shaming’.
Just because a mother is staying at home doesn’t mean that she’s going to be a ‘kitchen queen’ and server of all mankind at home. Have you ever thought about them as people who could be a wee little smarter than you and have a small established business of their own?
Just because they do not go out and work in a cubicle with a system in front of their eyes, does not give you the power to just judge them randomly. Think of it this way, you work for somebody and what you call the stay at home moms have their own business!
In fact, the latest trending beauty items from makeup kits to dresses, gowns baby clothes and everything cute is doing rounds on the internet through many social media pages. Instagram is a popular channel for these mothers to showcase their work. They have their own business and they are doing enough for their families too!
Here’s an interesting message from a ‘Stay-at-home-mom’ Ryshell Castleberry, a tattoo artist, and a dedicated full-time mommy. She has brutally yet beautifully explained what it takes to be a ‘stay-at-home-mom’
Here’s the full text of her Facebook post:
My wife does not work
My wife doesn’t work!!!
A conversation between a husband (H) and a psychologist (P):
Q: what do you do for a living Mr. Rogers?
H: I work as an accountant in a bank.
P: Your wife?
H: She doesn’t work. She’s a housewife.
Q: Who makes breakfast for your family?
H: My wife, because she doesn’t work
Q: What time does your wife wake?
H: She wakes up early because it has to be organized. She organizes the lunch for the children, ensures that they are well-dressed and combed if they had breakfast if they brush their teeth and take all their school supplies. She wakes with the baby and changes diapers and clothes. Breastfeeds and makes snacks as well.
Q: How do your children get to school?
H: My wife takes them to school because she doesn’t work.
P: After taking their children to school, what does she do?
H: Usually takes a while to figure something out that she can do while she is out, so she doesn’t have to pack and unpack the car seat too many times, like drop off bills or to make a stop at the supermarket. Sometimes she forgets something and has to make the trip all over again, baby in tow. Once back home, she has to feed the baby lunch and breastfeed again, get the baby’s diaper changed and ready for a nap, sort the kitchen and then will take care of laundry and cleaning of the house. You know, because she doesn’t work.
P: In the evening, after returning home from the office, what are you doing?
H: Rest, of course. Well, I’m tired after working all day in the bank.
Q: What does your wife do at night?
H: She makes dinner, serves my children and me, washed the dishes, orders once more the house, makes sure the dog has put away as well as any left over dinner. After helping children with HW she gets them prepared to sleep in pajamas and the baby is in fresh diapers, gives warm milk, verifies they brush their teeth. Once in bed, she wakes frequently to continue to breastfeed and possibly change a diaper if needed while we rest. Because she doesn’t have to get up for work.
-This is the daily routine of many women all over the world, it starts in the morning and continues until the wee hours of the night… This is called “doesn’t work”?!
Being a housewife has no diplomas, but has a key role in family life!
Enjoy and appreciate your wife, mother, grandma, aunt, sister, daughter… Because their sacrifice is priceless.
Somebody asked her…
You are a woman who works or is it just “housewife”??
I work as a wife of the home, 24 hours a day.
I am a mother,
I am a woman,
I am a daughter,
I’m the alarm clock,
I’m the cook,
I’m the maid,
I am the master,
I’m the bartender,
I’m the babysitter,
I’m a nurse,
I am a manual worker,
I’m a security officer,
I’m the advisor,
I am the comforter,
I don’t have a vacation,
I don’t have a license for disease.
I don’t have a day off
I work day and night,
I’m on duty all the time,
I do not receive salary and…
Even so, I often hear the phrase:
” but what do you do all day?”
Dedicated to all the women who give their lives for the welfare of their families
The woman is like salt:
Her presence is not remembered, but its absence makes everything left without flavor.
Motherhood is an uplifting and a very powerful experience that can change a woman’s life completely. Women are Goddesses of this universe and they nurture us and they are the ones who have fed us their breast milk and raised us for the people we are today.
They have dedicated their lives to us so that we could become independent individuals and stand on our own feet! Motherhood is an empowering state of being and it doesn’t matter if you’re working or not.
Share with all the beautiful ladies of your life!