7 New Mommy Challenges No One Talks About
Everything looks, feels, seems different after you’ve had a baby. Especially your priorities. This phase is believed to be the best period in a woman's life. Sadly, this phase results in anxiety, stress, and depression for many new mothers.
1. When in-laws give you stress rather than relieving you from it
Every grandparent has dreams formed, calculated, visualised for their grandchildren. They wish to pamper them, more than anything. In doing so, they often forget about the mother. A mother also has dreams, plans about nurturing the baby her way. And the pampering usually comes in the way of the parent’s style of parenting.
2. Modern versus traditional methods of baby care
Problems start the moment a baby is born. There arises a difference of opinions. Baby care becomes a bone of contention between the mother and the grandparents. The mother wants to implement the modern parental techniques, her in-laws or parents want to go the traditional way. Baby foods to baby clothes, everything triggers a debate. The arguments and tension leave the new moms exhausted and stressed out. Relax! Do not lose heart and sleep over such a trivial matter. Most of the problems arise due to miscommunication. A patient discussion can help to arrive at an effective solution that is the best for the baby.
3. Husbands, a stress much more than anticipated
Parenthood is believed to make the bond between the new parents stronger. Their bundle of joy has given them all the reasons to celebrate. Every day they go through new emotions. Emotions that make them smile, emotions that make them cry. With merits come the demerits. Some couples face compatibility issues. The relationship dynamics changes. Many factors can influence these differences:
4. A new baby replaces the old baby
There are times when a husband needs his wife the most. He wants her to be by his side. For a new mother, the world ceases to exist. In raising her baby, she forgets everything; her husband as well. Many men are not able to take this sportingly. They feel neglected and left out. Gradually, the relationship strains leaving the mother stressed out. Do not freak out. You have waited nine months, endured much for this moment. The baby is important, but your husband also exists. Do not forget the person who contributed towards your happiness. Put in a little effort. Talk to him.
5. Romanticism down the drain
A new baby affects the sex life of most couples. Even if the husband is all charged up, the wife fails to reciprocate. At some point, this acts as a catalyst to strain the relationship. Needless to say, this leaves the mother depressed. Do not remain silent. It will make things worse for you both. Discuss the situation with your partner. The baby is his as well. He will surely understand.
6. The journey to XXL
A woman goes through a lot of physical changes post pregnancy. They lose their self-confidence over this. The mirror becomes her worst enemy. Most mothers get depressed over their size. Love your bodies, ladies! The return journey from XXL to size zero is in your hands.
7. Many new mothers miss the party animal they used to be
They fret over the fact that their life is no longer what it used to be. Women who gave up their career for the baby feel financially insecure. They miss the independence, both personally and professionally.
Cheer up! The situation is temporary. And it is also more beautiful than anything else. Things will fall into place soon and it will all make sense.