Questions on Emotional Support
A Month old boy
Hello mommies ,anyone here who travelled interntionally with 2 month old baby.i need your suggestions and experiences.i have to travel kn 29 june nearly 10 hour flight.5 hour then 2 hour break and then 2 hour.though i m travelling bussiness class as i have to travel alone but dont know if this makes any difference.please need your valuable tips .thankyou
Hi dear, I didn't traveled international but travelled hyderabad to bhatinda (Punjab) when my baby was 2.5 months old. First of all I need to to give an important suggestion is dnt panic, since u r a new mom nd sometimes u may dunno y baby is crying even after feeding, so dnt panic nd be ready to handle ur baby alone. Always put medicine of ur baby in ur bag especially colic aid nd while take off, landing just feed ur baby nd also keep Cotton balls in ur baby ears so he don't get ear pain due to sound. Dress him in comfortably like Cotton, coz babies may irritated during journeys. If it was cold in flight then make him wear full Sleeves. While travelling to bhatinda I did this mistake we travelled through 3 ac train nd I dressed my baby in half Sleeves coz of ac he got cool nd babies dnt like cool weather much... He kept crying until we reach our destination. Due to continues crying he got gas formed in stomach nd yeah it took few days for him later to get normal. And keep burping ur baby after every feed nd atleast put him on your shoulders for 10-15 min after each feed.
11 Months old boy
Hi mommies... How many days it will take for babies to forget breast milk ? Actually I'm planning to stop bm as my baby is always demanding milk at night for about min 4 tyms. I couldn't able to getup as I'm alone have to manage the household works whole day. So pl tell me how to make my baby forget bm ? He is not having cows milk. I tried two days but he is not taking cows milk so frnds pls help me to sort out this problem.
3 of my friends told me that it took only one day for them.. They left their babies with their mother or MIL for 1 full day and night.. They stayed somewhere far from the babies that is they didn't appear in front of the babies.. One of my cousin told me that she stopped breastfeeding within 1 week by avoiding sweet, spicy and sour foods.. Others suggesting to apply neem leaf paste on breast to make BM bitter and that way baby will hate BM.. I'm still breastfeeding my 1.5 year old son and not getting the courage to stop breastfeeding as my son will calm down or sleep only after bf.. Will try this methods once I am prepared..
9 Months old boy
How to make your husband close to you. I mean emotionally close. Humari itni ladai itni misunderstanding blame karna ek dusre ko badh gya hai k hum baat b nahi karte. Aur agar mei baat karu b to bus kaam k baate hoti hai, aisa last 10 months se ho raha hai. Ab situation aisee hai k hume ek dusre me bus kamiya hi dikhti hai.. even mei koshish b karu close jane k to wo kate kate rehte hai. Kya karu pls help
I lost my dad last year. I had some issues with him, I was angry. But after my marriage I realize nobody can take place of him. Sorry papa, I didn't have chance to tell you sorry. I am sorry. Your daughter was angry with you because you loved your son more but you loved me enough. I miss you when my FIL supported his daughter even it was her fault. I missed you when he shows unconditional love to his daughter. If you were there, nobody would have courage to tell me anything. I would have come to you anytime . I have lost my home and this house is not mine. It's my in-laws and his daughter. I I am grateful to you for giving me such a good husband but in-laws can't take place of you and mom I promise to you from now I will not be angry with anyone for a long time. I miss you. Happy Father's Day.
6 Months old boy
Today i want to share something about my MIL.. I started doing cooking after 12 days of my c sec... I'm taking care of my baby from 3rd day.. I gave him bath from the day doctor permitted... My MIL came before one day of c sec but she made my life hell.. She started saying bad words to me from the day of baby born.. Dr. Said after 3days milk comes bcoz c sec but my MIL started tonting me and she said continue sit without support of pillow and try to make your baby feed... She did my life spoil.. She went back after some days but she stopped doing anything for me after 10 days... Till now when i remember those days i get angry nd cry alot ..I Don know how to forget those days.. With my story i just want to convey the msz to all those ladies who are similar as me... Don't ever give your MIL this much right that she made your life worse..
same to same happened to me dear. Even I did all work till delivery and after delivery also baby and mine work done by me .as I enter to house s after 3 day of c sec she said to me cook but thn I refused. How can someone this much heartless. for a single moment she even didn't hold the baby I did all my work . she also said to everyone that milk not coming even with strangers too. And till now she says to everyone that the lady who delivered baby with c sec is not mother in actual meaning only natural delivery makes a lady mother. You didn't had that pain so how you know what is mother .Litterly shit thinking she has. it's been 13 months of delivery but not a single day is passing without thinking that time and m getting angry. 😓
6 Months old girl
1 Year 1 Month old boy
Hi mom's, How are you managing work life and baby care, am very much confused. I have to join office soon in order to help my husband financially. But thinking of the baby I tried hiring a maid but changed 4-5 maids but no use they are care less when we are not around. Both my mil and Mom are working so they can't help me . They told me to keep my baby in their house so that they will take care but me and my husband can't live without him. The left over option is daycare. But my question is will they take good care?. Because I heard so many bad stories. My baby doesn't eat well I have to make him watch TV and force feed him. Will they do the same . Am very much worried Yar, some times I feel like quit the job but my husband needs financial support😭😭.please help me mom's how are you managing. Thanks a lot in advance.
Mumma do check out day xares. If you have decent budget, day cares gives cctv coverage as well. Visit daycares near your house you will know your preferences, On feeding, Mumma force feeding and distraction feed are not good for babies. Let them eat and explore food. He will eat if he is hungry. Initially he may not want to eat but will start having it a day or two
4 Months old girl
Sorry...m hiding my name ....I hv 2 daughter's both r so young....don't 9 m feeling very negative ....feeling scared can't do concentrate on my kids... stressed due to financial prblms...nt having connection with my parents..no support of anyone..hubby is busy his work...are they reason's of my problem ?or should I go to the doctor what should I do?feeling very worried...I dnt 9 m feeling very restless...not having proper rest.. in 2.5 months I starts to do work... bht pressure hai....lgta h going to die😢😢
2 Year 10 Months old boy
Continued part .......one more thing after baby I lost my beauty like....my hair became permanent frizzy.....my complexion became dark.....tummy came out...lots of weight gain.....n having pcod thyroid.....even after taking good diet n taking care of myself m not getting my beauty back I feel tired all the times..... anxiety.... depression.....n whenever I see my father s house side how my bro n their wife lives luxurious life I feel so bad.......how to handle......my marry was arranged n my parents gave me to a middle class boy coz my elder brothers two times marriage was cancelled after ring ceremony my parents got panic n did so....now it's difficult for me to match up standard n keep my husband s respect.... please help
6 Months old boy
Hello moms, I am mother of 6 month baby. I am handling my baby alone no one is there. My hubby is busy he goes factory at 8 o clock morning n come at 10 o clock night or Whole night also not come. I m very tired. What can I do. Dont know
7 Months old girl
Mummas😢😢.. My bby s oly creeping from past 1 n half month.. Nw she s 7 month 10 days old.. She hs nt yt strtd crawling and doesnt sit without support fr mch time n she ll b shaking if i make hr to sit witot support o she ll bend .. Am soo worried!!.. When she ll sit firmly?? When she ll crawl??.. Hav nybdy xperienced d sme??.. 2. I giv hr 3 meals.. Ragi porridge-9am Banana puree/veg puree-11am Suji/rice daal pirridge-1pm Chikoo-3pm Bm-5pm Ragi porridge-7pm Bm-8:30.. She ll sleep at 8:30.. Is ths meal plan is okay o shud i mke ny changes.. Yo suggestions r precious to me plsss do replyyy😔😔
if ur baby is able to digest all foods den u should continue ur schedule...u r feeding all healthy food... crawling milestone is around a year so don't worry much... massage baby twice a day... continue iron & calcium supplements..include curd in diet fr calcium n proteins...i hope u r adding milk to porriage...check ur babys weight..if she is bit undr weight her spine may bend while sitting initial.. continue to mk her sit with support
7 Months old boy
My baby eat foods without salt nd sugar..But i add less spices in him food....My own mom also dont allow me to give foods without salt nd sugar..then how can my mil allow me to give .....In few days aftr i will go to my mil's place...iam really worried....my hubby will not support me..wht to do?????
It’s wise to avoid adding any extra salt to your baby’s food. Babies and children only need a tiny amount of salt in their diets, and that need is generally met through breast milk or infant formula. As your baby gets older and begins eating table food, he’ll get plenty of “hidden” salt in these foods. Even as adults, it’s not wise to add salt to foods—we get plenty in our diets!Adding too much salt to a baby’s food can be harmful to his immature kidneys, which might not be able to process the excess salt. Salting baby foods also can also lead to a lifelong preference for salty foods, and that can endanger a child’s future health. What if ur husband don't supports you? Dear the baby is your child you have whole rights to fight with the world for him. To taught good things and to take care of his health is your responsibility. Never make others take decision on your baby food. Take care
11 Months old girl
Does walkers help babies to walk without support earlier ? I don't like walker.. I want my baby to stand and walk without support naturally on her own... But my MIL is telling tat we have to make her walk in walker.then only she will learn early. But I don't want. If it is late or so. I want to learn on her own. Is that true?
I gave walker to my baby when he was 7 months old. Nd just a few days back I realised that I made a big mistake by giving that. By giving walker they dnt learn taking support while standing, with out walker they vl learn how to take support nd how to balance while standing. From few days I avoided walker nd now he was trying to stand independently nd also walks by taking support of sofa, chair, bed etc. While using walker he vl always fells down coz he dnt know how to balance. So I suggest to not give walker now. Start after ur baby completes 9 months atleast. Let him learn to balance first. But give only 30-1 hr per day remaining tym let ur baby play on floor. One more important thing just buy an use nd throw walker. We just wasted much money on things we use for two to three months
A Month old girl
Mere sil ko nimani katshi dene the man apne Mom k Ghar ho with my 1.5 month baby . Husband chd working hai . Sil k Ghar mere Ghar se 2 hrs far hai around 3/4 hrs lag jaye gaye . Baby ko Kabhi bhi alone Nahi chodta . Fil Ghar hai cousin Ghar hai . Kya mere yea nimani katshi de k ana bhaut jaruri hai sil ko . Uske marriage ko 5-6 years ho gaye hai yea first festival Nahi hai .
Aj phli br is app m prgncy s related nhi puchna mujhe aap sabhi yha ladies hai meri feelings smjhogi mai bhut akele hogyi hu mujhe kuch smjh nhi aarha kya kru mai.....mere ghr me mere saas sasur jeth jethani mere pati or jethanj k do bache rhte hai....sb thik tha achanak s jabse mak prgnent hui mere sasur ki niyat mujhpe khrb hogyi wo gandi hrkate krte the mere sth mai sehan ki pr apne pati ko bata di thi ....fir mera cs 22may ko hua...to mere ghrwle mera support nhi krte the khana tym s na dena to ladai hui or behas me mere pati ne papa ji ki bate keh dali to ab koi ghr me wishwas nhi krrha sb bolte hai mai jhuthi hu or mujhe alag kiya ja rha hai pariwar se jabki mera bacha abhi sirf 21din ka hai ...mai kya kru koi suggest kro kya sach bolna paap hai?
Bilkul dear💐💐...hum yahaan Saari ladies aapki feelings ko samjhenge aur koi kyun nahi samjhega dear...aisa Kisi ke Saath bhi ho saktaa hai..kab kyaa kiske Saath ho jaae yeh koi bhi Nahi jaanta.. isiliye insaan ko Kisi ki bhi bad situation ki khud pe rakhke ek baar jarur sochna Chahiye ki bechaare saamnewaale pe kyaa beet rahi hogi😐😐😐😐😐...Apne achchaa kiyaa jo yahaa Tinystep forum me sabke Saath apna dukh share kiyaa😶😶😶...Sabse pehli baat ki Aapka C-SECTION huaa hai to aap itna jyaada stress leke mat raho...kyunki body pe iska bahut hi jyaada bad effect padegaa...😐😐Apko koi jarurat nahi hai aise rakshas roopi sasur aur aisee family ke Saath relation rakhne Ka jo itne gande hai😐😐...apke sasur Jaise log hi hai jo apni beti ko bhi nahi chhodte hai..unke Saath bhi galat kaam karte hai..Apke liye positive point Aapke husband hai jo ki aap pe trust karte hai aur apse pyaar karte hai..wohh Aapke Saath hai to aapko itna stress lene ki jarurat hi Nahi.☺☺Aap Apne maayjewaalon ko Apne sasur ki karni ke baare me khul ke btaa do aur last maaro aise sasurwaalon ko jahaan bahu ki respect hi nii..😐Aap dusre jagah rent pe shift ho jaao kam se kam apke baby ko uss gande atmosphere me bade hone se aap bachaa loge aur uski parwarish aapdono job Karke achche se Kar le jaaoge...aur alag rehne se aap bhi sukoon se rahogi Apne baby aur hubby ke Saath aur Apne sasur ki ghatiyaa kartoot ko thoda bhulaane Ka maoka bhi mil jaaega. 😃😃..sasural me rahogi to ghut-2 ke jeeyogi..unka muhh dekh-2 ke jo ki Sahi nii h Aapke liye☺☺☺☺
7 Months old girl
Pls mummies answer more.meri mil sil bby ka care achese nhi krti....wo baiti toh gir jati support se khade hone dekhte fir gir jati.pr ye log tv mbl me bsy rehte.aur mujhe kam me bsy rakhte...hubby unko kuch bole toh mil bolti ki.bar bar girne de acha hai.unka head majbut hota ya.tab jaa kr bde honge..kya ye sahi haim.pls answer..any experience..hubby aur me uske pas hi rehte girn bhi nhi dete..wo bar bar taunt marti hai.girne de..majbut hota hai
5 Months old girl
Dear friends m bahut tension m hu meri beti sirf 5 month ki h cs s hue h shadi k 5 years baad,mere sasural wale bahut bure h m jyadatar apne mayke m hi rehti hu,hubby defence m h isliye onke sath rehti hu,jb sasural m ladai hoti h tb mere hubby b support nai karte onki maa Behan mujhe Marne tk k liye khasi ho gai but y chuchp dekhte rehte h bolte h sehan Karo,isliye kai salo s m waha na rehkar apne mayke hi rehti hu,aor jaha inki posting hoti h waha inke sath,but ab y keh rahe h wahi sasural m rehna hoga chahe koi kuch b kahe sahn Karo,nai to apna relation end,m keh rahi hu pahle Jo b hua Vesa ab kabhi nai hoga is baat ki guarantee l lo sab m chlti hu,but vo keh rahe h bina kuch guarantee k chlna hoga aor agr kuch hua b to m apni maa Behan k aage kuch nai bolne wala,m bahut pareshan hu yar,kya karu kuch b samjh nai
hii dear itna seriously mt lo in baato ko apne hubby se bolo shadi tumne unse ki h na k unki family k members se defence vaale aese hote h thoda extra love krte h apne family se. lekin unko ye ni pta aapke hubby ghar pyaar aur respect bs job me tbhi tk mil rhi h otherwise koi ni puchta h . Aur baat rhi aapki to apne liye stand lo hath uthaya ja rha h aap ye to bhut glat h aap iski complain jis field me aapke hubby h vha k (IG DIG) se b kr skte ho aur vha se b help na mile to accosition hota h defence vaalo k wife k liye usme b kr skti koi si b help milegi aapko . tensn mt lo aur khus rho tc.
My c section was done 23 days before.I am getting angry on my baby and loose patience bcoj my mil take him away and give it to me for breast feed only.I don't know why I am reacting like this.I got my baby after 5 years of my marriage. Is it passesiveness of mine or post partum depression I don't know.I got my baby by in very much difficult situation. How can I angry and irritate on him.plz suggest what is happening wid me
1 Year 2 Months old boy
Hi moms nw my baby has completed 13 months wen he is going to walk? he just keep wall bed nd walk but nt started standing alone nd all..... Y wats d problem
My mother was never like ordinary mother, she wasn't good wife she had extra marital affair when I was 16 I have seen everything which I am not supposed to see or feel in that age, I was shattered i never told this to my father, for some years I stopped talking to her but eventually I forgotten everything and acted like normal but deep down I felt betrayed and decided I will never be wife like her. Now I am 7 month pregnent and never got that support in these months which as a daughter I should get from mother when I went hometown for 10days she didn't understand my mood swings and fought with me. living alone with my husband obuisly she is not coming she didn't get tym from clicking her pics, putting on Instagram, watching tv, and from Facebook, no one will be here with me in 8th and 9 month, after delivery my mil will come, my husband is suggesting to keep maid for full day but i am not comfortable with maid, is it necessary someone should be with me all time?
Only my hubby & I have been managing alone & no one from his or my family stays with us. Both of us don’t have fathers & our mothers are not physically capable of taking care of me. It’s hard especially when I had to be on bed rest but we managed. Even I don’t want to have the drama of keeping a maid post delivery but we will see how it goes. For normal delivery I think a lady can manage themselves but c sec may be challenging. Another thing you can think of is using home made food canteen options for meals. This way for the first month and a half (while you rest) you can have cooked food delivered through dabbawala (cooking is a main work) and yourself just take care of baby. All this will only work if you have a supporting husband who is not scared to do some housework himself while you heal.
10 Months old girl
Moms Meri beti aaj bed se neeche gir Gayi main bas washroom Gayi thi I know meri galti h poori..but mere Husband mujhe bohot suna rahe h tab se k neeche kaise girne dia tune aur bohot chide hue h but I was expecting k mujhe support Karemge aur meri situation samjhenge kya wo sahi h apni jagah my mom is also scolding me
1 Year old girl
Hi moms... My 1 year old baby weight is 7.8 kg and height is 72 cm. and her birth wt is 2.7 kg... I m little worried.. How can I increase her weight.. She is super active and walk 8 steps without support..
8 Months old girl
Which nestle cerelac is best and tasty for 8+ months baby? (For those who suggest homemade please don't comment as for me homemade is not possible as i am taking care of baby alone)
A Month old girl
I m at my maternal home after 45 day’s of my child born . My husband is supportive and kind hearted person but he is not at all romantic as he is shy kind of person . He always has a great heart for his own family . He is not working in Home town . I m staying in his home town with his family cox of my kid . I dnt have my mil but have grand mil but she dnt support me much to take care of my baby . His birthday is coming after 20 days . I want to go home to celebrate his birthday . But they dnt have any culture of much celebration he will just go on dinner with his sister and jiju . I ask him to leave me again at my mom home after 1 week when I willCome back to home for your birthday and a relative marriage . But he said no . He said leave for as many days as you want to leave I m not that free always drop you there . What should I do ? Should I go back or stay here only for a stretch. As my mom will be going out of county after I will leave she will come after 6/7 months .
11 Months old boy
My baby is 11 months old... His birth weight was 2.3 kgs still he's underweight... 7.8 or 7.9 kgs. He has not yet started crawling but he is trying whole day. He will b 1 year old on 3 July... Shud I b worried . . He has achieved every milestone except crawling or standing without support. He can stand with my support but for 10-15 seconds.... He walks in walker easily..
You need not be so worried dear but it would be better for the baby if they crawl and not skip them. give them more floor time. may I know from when you started using walker to baby? becoz if used earlier it will also hamper their muscle development And they will not be able to balance on their own.