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A Month Old Boy | Oct 2017

My mother in law from day one she was saying milk not adequate... even though my secretions are good ... on day 3 after vaccination baby continuously cried she was saying oram vilundhurukum...I said nothing like that he was vaccinated today that's y. . But she didn't listen to me.. more over I m a mbbs doctor. But she act as if PhD in all these stuff.. she was saying baby is pink he may become black and ask me y u didn't eat papaya after 7 month. His son s litle black only.. she over feed me saying then only milk will come.. saying keep sugar water in mouth honey in mouth .. even though I explained doctor said not to do.. she s saying put garlic in milk boil and drink.. she ordered me i said i cant.. i said i never ate this much sorry.. for biriyani she s saying me to mix poondu chatney and eat.. i said dont torchel me... everytime baby cries she cum &say milk not sufficient .. I felt depressed I said I take care u go . My husband say adjust they are elders. Is I m wrong?

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Jayanthi, this is not the time to make others happy. Unga husband ku porumai ah solli puriya Vai inga. Everything should be around the baby and you since this time is very crucial. Time will always be there to make up things with your family members but not with a new born. Stay strong, I completely understand your situation. Recently I have gone through it. My kid is 3 months old. Make confidence your second nature at this point of time. Be whatever may come, nothing shd affect you, that strong you need to be. Prayers will give you strength.

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See dear as you are a MBBS degree holder it will be easy for me to make you understand then a women who is illiterate, as you know all science expects, all about what health related benifits...you may know Your baby's skin colour, whether dark or fair, is determined by his genes at the time of conception. Nothing you did during pregnancy or do now will change your baby's natural complexion.....But let me tell you something that might hurts you but please don't take in other way, see dear to run a family after marriage or to understand people in family dir is no degree required, so that is your spouse family and now yours too, if you say anything to ur hubby he may react negative about your words after all he is the son of that women about whom ua complaining and also his first priority...As his wife, on the other hand, you can learn to recognize your importance in your husband’s life without feeling the need for him to discard his mother. She will always be a big part of his life, for sure, and that’s natural. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t care about building a whole new life with you. Remember, he chose you to build a new life together, didn’t he? Trust that..Whether itz a MIL or a DIL, understanding how the other can feel threatened by the fear of being unimportant or devalued will also help you develop some compassion toward the other. This will no doubt soften you a bit so that you’re less reactive and more deliberate in what you say and do around the other. It gives you a bit of much-needed breathing room. In the end, you’re both important to him — and that’s a very good thing.
so try to handle things smoothly without sudden reaction in violence manner, Not always mil are bad how much we imagined coz of horror stories about mils from centuries...you just try to figure out what exactly she wants, according to me I didn't find anything much wrong she is just worried about the new born, if you find any suggestions of her wrong or meaning less you just tell her in politely and sure one day she will listen to you coz she also knows and heard all horror stories of dils.....so please think once before anything you say or do....itz your life no one can lead except you and your behaviors...
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Thank you He too says the same Wen i complain he get angry So avoid her finally That too he don't like He want me to mingle with her I asked if i don't like the way we speak how to mingle Always that's the problem between us argument continues I Do no how to handle How I will act like having love on her If I m wrong tell me I rectify

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