Third Trimester | Mar 12

DEPRESSION AND FEAR OF DYING.... I'm currently at 32 weeks. Already took leave from office... My husband goes to office, I stay alone all day and am becoming depressed gradually... my back and leg pain worsens, I'm feeling tired allday, ... no outing, no entertainment with this inflexibility.. .. just can't tolerate this awaiting phase, don't know when my baby would be out! I am feeling so sad and worried thinking about my delivery, tension affecting me so much... my sixth sense is saying perhaps I would die in ot... what to do? How many days are left!! I would do c section...but for that how many days!! It's so irritating and endless journey!!

18 Answers

Mar 12

Cool yar.. you are stressing yourself and your baby also. Even I felt the same during your phase. Especially in the 9 month, it feels like hell waiting for the baby. I will tell you what I did.
You need to remove all the negative thoughts from your mind. Occupy your self with some or the other hobby. Do prenatal yoga, google it and you can find many videos.
Think about the baby. How she/he may look?? How you need to handle baby?? How to bathe your baby?? What are the things required to buy for your baby?? Go through some YouTube videos regarding baby care.
For entertainment purpose you can watch movies. Subscribe to Netflix, Amazon prime and YouTube. Go out for a walk in the morning and evening. Check if there is any park nearby your house. During evening in parks, you can find some pregnant ladies walking. Talk with them. Share your thoughts, experiences and feelings. Socialize with people online and offline. Chit chat with your friends.
Talk to your husband. Spend time with together. Go for short outings whenever possible.
Take care of your health. Whenever you feel low, tired or having pains, don't stay at a single place and time pass. Move around in the house, or else you will feel more lazy.
Now you want the baby to come out fast to end this pregnancy time. But once the baby comes, you can't find time for yourself. You can't go out and many more. At one point after delivery, you will miss your pregnancy phase. You need to pass through everything to get your bundle of joy.
Be calm and stay positive.
Enjoy every phase of life. Those moments never gonna come back again. 🙂😀

Ps: Sorry for the long answer. I just wrote my feelings after reading your question. I didn't realise that I ended up writing a biiiig answer after typing everything 😅

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Sunitha Bedre

Mar 12

don't worry just enjoy the days of being alone in Ur home.. while other ladies have many problems with their in law and couldn't get proper food also... eat whatever u like.. am living with joint family I can't even do or eat anything whatever I like. always mon in law and sis in law torture and other family matter also.. etc.. don't ever think abt operation just watch videos of normal delivery u ll get bold.. I did same.. and also God grace I had normal delivery.. think abt future phase of living with Ur kid.. talk positive words to Ur kid now itself. it will listen u.. touch Ur tummy be positive.. don't wry god is there..

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Jaspreet Kaur

Mar 12

at least ur husband is there with you. m at my moms place n husband 1200kms away! hardly met 4-5 times in 7 months.
life ll chnge drastically once the bby arrives... so enjoy these moments now... freedom ll nvr come n things ll not b the same remember!
always think positive n positive ll happen...

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Ashwina K

Mar 12

Atleast you should be happy that your husband comes home after office hours. My husband left for Africa when I was 24 weeks pregnant though I was with my mom and my sis but in this journey we expect husband to be beside us. so you should feel happy you have him near by atleast from evening. Secondly keep yourself busy these thoughts are common but if you think more and more there are chamces of high bp as you have fear and it may harm you and baby. keep your self busy in readng books praying God and just have faith in God. Last but not the least I think after 35 weeks you can opt for c section but I would suggest let baby come out on it's time

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Kavya Sannati

Mar 12

hey dear days will pass soon...you should be happy when you are carrying as everyone cares for you and your baby...and if you keep on thinking it will affect your health and then baby...
what I suggest you is be busy always... when you sit simply thousand thoughts will come to the mind... do house hold work and then read some books watch good movies and in the evening go for walk...make a time table ....take plenty of rest...after delivery you won't get time for yourself and then you will regret that you wasted pregnancy time...
think of your baby and be happy...
regarding delivery, no need to think about that...normal delivery is good but if that does not happen c -section is there...
in both the cases it depends on you that how you take that...recovery time also depends on you...
I had c section but I did not feel much pain and was able to walk next day itself...
have self confidence...

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Sonali Ramteke

Mar 12

It happens with everyone one in last trimester. Everyone get tried of being pregnant(it is almost a year). It happened with me too. Don't get depressed do things like reading, watching movies etc. About pain, u have to tolerate to gain something(it is a part of pregnancy). Don't worry u r not going to die, choose a. Experienced doctor and a good hospital. Death happens in very rare cases(complicated). Keep ur positive attitude. This is the only thing which is going to help u to deliver the baby and don't think much about c section u can do it. Stay positive.

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Pratibha Hargude

Mar 12

hii dear plz dont be stress urself ... pregnancy days are very special and never came back .. i am sure u will miss ur pregnancy days after delivery...... i am also going through this as my 6 months started my husband leave me at my in laws house... i really miss him throughout my 7, 8 and 9 months of pregnancy... crying a lot.. bcoz of this i cant enjoy my pregnancy... i think like u and getting depressed also but now my baby is11 month old and i am thinking about my pregnancy such a beautiful phase but cant enjoy ... plz be happy and enjoy ur pregnancy

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Snehal Sawant

Mar 12

Be positive dear...Stay happy.Go for a walk which help for normal delivery.try meditation .Eat healthy. Don't worry this waiting period is so boring and frustrating but once baby came out you will have most beautiful days of your life..
Sleep as much as you can, as baby came out you gonna have sleepless nights.😅
There are many women who has to work till their last day you're lucky you has lot's of time to take rest...
Try stitching woollen clothes for baby..you will get tutorial from youtube...
or you can read books ..watch T.V
There is lot of things to do ...
And Now a days there is lot of progress in medical facilities so there is no chance you will die....It just you're over thinking..
so dear say BYE to all negative thoughts and make yourself busy..Enjoy this Phase 😍

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swathy partha

Mar 12

Same I have experienced when am in 8 th month pregnant becoz my mother in law died dat told her last moments with me ... really when she died I didn't feel anythng I thought she died dats it .. I don't even feel little also I don't know how I bean like a stone dat time but next day after buried depression and fear of death started in me even after delivery also it's continued but nothing wil happen trust god stay positive nothing wl happen to us dear

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Shivangi Garg

Mar 12

read spiritual books it gives relax to u and divert your mind and it effect good on your baby also

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priyanka datre

Mar 12

hey dear...chill down...just few more weeks..I was also alone during my pregnancy period..hubby used to go to work from 11am to 10pm..i can understand ur situation..what I used to do is finish my household chores and then take some rest..after waking up, I used to make call to my friends and parents..I used to go for walk after that..it will make u relax a bit..u can also follow..watch baby related videos ..read religious books..u will feel better..don't think negative..tc

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jasleen kaur

Mar 13

enjoy this phase dear... u vl gonna miss pregnancy time... fulfil Ur sleep after baby u bill hv sleepless night n day...I am awake only 2 hrs daily...

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Vidhya Lakshmi

Mar 12

hi Dr, u r going to be blessed wit a beautiful baby very soon.read books ,paint drawings,hear melody songs it vil reflect to ur baby.many sleep less night are waiting for u.so tak rest now....think positive stay healthy drink plenty of water ...wen u hav ur baby in ur hand every pain and stress vil go off .pray God for u and ur baby....be happy Dr...

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khush kaderji

Mar 12

gone through the same.. fear of during n body ache... I was carrying twins.. but don't wrry every thing vl b fine soon... but ull miss this days.. u vl not get tym to see ur self... to eat food peacefully... so njoy this tym n relax

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Monica Sankat

Mar 13

start reading books n watch TV...watch a Web series. or u can watch game of thrones all episodes.. ultimately dimag dusri jagah lagao. maine toh crime petrol k sare episodes dekh dale th

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Aashna Verma

Mar 12

ur prblm z u r alone...i facd the same thing whn i got mrrd bcoz my hsbnd z living wthout his family nd i had to stay all day alone..jst make sme frnds or do online chatting with pregnant ladies like u..u ll feel bttr..nd dont wrry u r not going to die dear..jise mrna h wo waisw hi mar jayega zrurri thode hi h ot jake hi mare🤣🤣🤣.chill yr..chng kro apna enviormnt

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Priya Sah

Mar 12

i m also 32 week preg nd leave alone whole day as my husband goes to ofc .maine 2 maid v rakha hai ek khana bnane k ly aur ek baki kam k ly like bartan pocha. so, mere pas jyada kam v nh hai krne ko but mai apne aap ko busy rakhte hu like mom se video call,fb,maid ko assist krna, baby se movemnt ka video banna etc . hope it works for u

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shama sultana

Mar 12

ohhh sister esa hi lgta tha mjhe but esa kuch hota nhi h bs ye time esa hota h k kuch pta nhi rehta k ab kya hoga but dear ap sirf achcha achcha hi socho

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