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Third Trimester | Sep 2018

I delivered a beautiful baby girl two weeks ago. Initially my MIL started sharing my bed with the baby. My baby was struggling to breast feed so she used to help.me during night. That's any she asked my husband to sleep in different room. Now my baby is becoming better and I don't need support from a third person in night although she keeps me awake for 3-4 hours. But my MIL still asks my husband to sleep in different room saying that he needs to be in office during day so he needs rest. And assures my hubby that she is there with me for any help needed. But my MIL sleeps through full night. Just tells me to let her know if I need help. My husband is not like this. He will wake up of I wake up and take equal responsibility of baby. But not my MIL. I don't like this. Is it normal? How can I politely ask her to let my husband sleep with me? I am concerned about my husband too as it will disturb him but I don't want my MIL to take credit that she helps me during night when she doesn't.

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hehe. this just reminds me my Japa days. dear be thankful that at least u have someone is backup. n secondly,she is offering help at least. I can understand ur situation very well as I went thru same.

n even worse, my baby never slept during nights for many months n she is still not good at sleep even at the age of 23months.

my mil used to b in my bed but she kept sleeping even if baby used to cry. n even if I made her wake up, she just used to say "she must b hungry,just Feed her" 😂
I used to feed whole night n even used to b more tensed that it doesn't disturb mil sleep.
so on 10th day,i myself denied n said her to sleep in her own room n come if I call.
as she was doing all the chores alone n is a person who dies for sleep after 10,it was very difficult for her as well at this age.

regarding hubby, it's even great to hear that ur hubby is like sharing responsibility. my hubby does, but only in daytime n till his levels only.
he is also like MIL,early to bed early to rise. n of course ,man needs very much energy to b active during ofc.
v get tired withiut proper sleep even at home. den v shudnt expect to play the same role for husband.they dont get daytime sleep or even rest. so how will they perform at ofc? it's true that it's mutual responsibility but he has more of it than us.
I let my hubby sleep in anotger room for whole 8months.

I believe u r missing ur hubby presence a lot n that's very natural. as u said,ur baby is getting more manageable, u may try letting ur hubby in d same room after few weeks. n just call ur mil for support wnever u need. no matter if she is just showing it off or not. bother her for few weeks n den ur hubby 😜
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i had the same situation...
but than i asked my hubby to be with me and to live all this time as this time wont come back and as a father he also need to take some of pressure and he was so supportive...he happily lived all those moments with me and our baby ...those sleepless nights and again next day hectic routine ...
when his mom use to say that you sleep you have office tommorow he once replied that "so what she will also have full day duty for baby as well"and my mil never asked again as she understood that her son is enjoying this moments of the life...
and why do they sleep so nice and we only had sleepless nights???
they working so what?? even v too had hectic scedule throughout the day!!
and its not that you have to be like this for lifetime...this time will pass soon and once baby will grown up the father will seek to play with baby but than baby will be so busy!! LOL...kidding but once baby will be in her scedule baby will sleep when dady comes from office than daddy can have nice sound sleep..remember baby wont always be 1 or 2 months..
make your hubby understand all this and ask him to speak to his mom..and tell him that you need himmm.
but most importantly are you ready for all this?? ypu are physically well now? can ypu manage your baby???
than you can go ahead with this..coz in my case i took care of my bqby all day and night from day 4..the day when we came from hoapital me and hubby shared same room and took care of my baby and we didnt needed anyone ..
you decide if you can manage than ask your hubby....
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