Second Trimester | Jan 2018

Hi moms. I m feeling vry bad today.actually i went to my gyno today. She insulted us so much and told us not to come again. We did mistake and apologied to her bt she didnt stop there.ye log bewakuf h.paise bachane k liye kuch bhi kr skte h and much more.i feel so bad.she was not giving proper time to us from last month and last time she wrote triple marker test in 17 week bt she didnt said anything.it was my mistake that i didnt check the card again. I missed the test.now i m 19 weeks pregnant.she said it cant be done now.and told us not to come again.she is a doctor bt is it the right way to talk to your patient i mean how can she shout at us in front of so many people.big thing is that what should i do now

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Jan 2018

First of all, it is sad that you had to go through such an experience.

Everyone is reporting that the Dr's way of treating is bad but have you ever thought what goes through a reputed doctor if she has been caught by this mistake. For eg. When a mother is asked to take a required test and she forgets it due to some reason, and if the reports brings up some abnormalities in the later stage when everyone is helpless do you know how bad the situation can turn into? This can even endanger the mother's or baby's life. The mother's family will strictly blame the doctor for such an act, they will put a criminal case against the doctor and this can even terminate the doctor's privilege to practice. No one is thinking about it.

Some tests should be done before 20 weeks, this is not only about pregnancy but there are definitely some rules and regulations in medical terms which are to be strictly followed by the doctor, patient or the mom to be. Or else in the later stage if one comes across some bad reports this will be taken in the law court.

I know my answer can create lots of hatred for me but this is a fact which most of the times we forget to think. The doctor might have misbehaved with you but at the same time he/she was helpless. Only creating such a situation was advisable if we think from the doctor's part because if this forgetfulness was hidden the matter will reach the higher authorities and this can interfere with the doctor's practices. A test that is to be conducted in 17th week must be strictly followed. It shouldn't be procrastinated.

You have to make sure not to forget your tests be what ever it is specifically during this crucial period of pregnancy. No one can take it lightly.

Try to find a good doctor immediately and get the required tests done. Going into the same hospital is not going to help because the doctors will definitely ask you the history.

Once again friends before judging me kindly think the doctor's and the mother to be's risks involved.

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sarla Perfect

Well said Manuja...agreed

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Prajna S

Jan 2018

It is true that she behaved rudely, but there is a reason why they behave such way.
It is for the safety of your baby they suggest test and nowdays people say Doctors suggest tests to make money...
You are not the only patient for the doctor she have to treat many others and they have to come across many cases.
Might she was in a bad mood for some other case and she bursted her anger on you, your bad luck :-( .
Don't worry dear you can test Triple marker till 20 weeks I think, If she do not accept your apology again, go to other doctor immediately.
Your previous doctor lost a patient but still because of care and worry about you she was angry on you, you must be proud of her even after knowing that she is gonna lose a patient she bursted on you badly.
Anyway good luck try again hope she will forgive you. ( I agree being a doctor she too would have acted with patience )

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Sneha Singh

Jan 2018

first of all... Triple Marker test is advised for all pregnant woman irrespective of thier age or type of pregnancy. it checks your hormone levels to investigate your growing foetus for any abnormality or risks. the foetus might have any birth defects like down syndrome which is detected in the triple marker test so its very important. some woman might have perfectly fine babies without the test but everyone is not so lucky. you still have 2 more weeks to get the test done. i took the test in 20th week. please find out which hospital performs the triple marker test near you and give your blood samples there for the test to be carried out. please do not skip this test and dont listen to any false advises.

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ambika sharma

Sneha mam jinhone triple marker test miss kr diya h kya vo direct quadrant test krva skti h? As advised by doctor..I also miss triple marker but my doctor didn't say nothing about it

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Selina Yadav

Jan 2018

Hello.. She has no right to behave this way.. Change ur doctor dear.... Have u got the double marker test done? Did she ask u to get that done.. Even my gynaecologist asked me for double marker only n didn't ask for triple marker test... N when I was 20weeks I reminded her instead as she might have forgotten but she didn't ask me to get it done... Take care...

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Jaanvi Kotwani

No she didnt asked for double marker test

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Anju Paudel

Jan 2018

dnt worry few doc's behave this way no need to take tension. these days there are many tests that can be done during pregnancy but still in many small cities such facilites are not available. i also didnt did any triple or double marker test, when i asked my doc she said its not needed. i asked my frnd who lives in delhi she also said that her gynae didnt recommended her any triple marker or double marker test. so dont worry if yu havent did any such test, simply change ur doc nd from now onwards be careful towards ur pregnancy nd such tests. 😊

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Kinnari Shah

Jan 2018

please do not think much about what has happened. from next time double check with Dr. i used to prepare list of queries in paper and ask my dr 1 by 1. At this stage don't take any stress and please change dr.

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Kaushalya S

Jun 2018

I think each doctor deals differently. moreover, like other experienced mums say, it's not okay to forget your follow up tests with the doctor. it might be serious though I am not sure as I myself am a pregnant mum for first time. and yet I don't agree with the way she told you not to come back again. she could have responded differently. that's a bit rude according to me. when I wanted to conceive badly, a well known doctor insulted me too with her way of conversation. (i was in tears- a doctor who should have understood me was hurting me..I lost sleep.. and I vowed to never visit her again but kept all my reports safe for the next New doctor)
I knew at that moment a change is required if I ever wanted a peaceful mindset for my health, and so I did change! my current gyno is so sweet. of course, there is my hubby who loves complaining about me. but this doctor is so good in responding patiently.
above all, it's still our greatest duty to follow doctor's advice strictly, dear Mom! :) so don't worry.. let your pregnancy schedule take the highest priority from now on! :) just cool down...
what's done is done.. you take the best decision- maybe by changing your doctor, and follow up with her advice strictly here on.. you will be alright!!:)

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MONIKA VASHIST

Jan 2018

hey Janvi, it's important for all. for u, for the baby, n equally important for the doc as well as it's her job.
but she can't b arrogant. she may deny for further consultation as a repercussion of ur forgetfulness.

Let me know where u live in Delhi. will suggest u good docs.

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MONIKA VASHIST

OK let me ask a frnd who lives in malviya nagar

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Pankhuri Agrawal Jalan

Jan 2018

Hello pls don't worry! First of all something similar happened with me...i met junior doctor at the appointment and he wrote triple marker but didn't mention the exact date...at next appointment I met my gynac and he told me that I had missed the time for triple marker test but he said not to worry as now there is an even better quadruple marker test which is widely done in india. Date for quadruple marker is some where around 20weeks or so...ur doctor will guide u better...so pls consult and do that test..cost is same as triple marker itself. I am in Mumbai and metropolis charged me 2500 for it. As mentioned by other people, these are precautionary blood tests to make sure baby doesn't have any genetic problems and recommended for almost everyone these days even though risk is higher in older patients or those with family genetic issues. But better safe than sorry.... take care! and also pls change ur shouting gynac!!😊

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sharanyaa suriyamurthy

Jun 2018

so sad but let me make it clear , in my case I directly got to know that iam pregnant only in 5th month completion . so hurried the scans & tests . my doc sushmitha was such a sweetheart . she was very friendly & motivated me from the biggest shock of pregnancy with the 11months old angel in hand . so don't worry for the missed tests pray well eat well stay cool .all is well

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Ankita Garg Goyal

May 2018

it's okey about the tripplemarker because if you are done with double marker and the report shows low risk then you don't need to go for tripplemarker test and secondary do change your doctor as soon as you can because if she can left you unattended at this stage then she can do this again at the time of delivery also. just go and look for the another gynaecology who has soft and polite nature... and don't be stressed because of that incident which happens to you because this can harm your baby more.....

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manoj namdeo

Jan 2018

there r so many Dr who do not recommend this test, even my doc hadn't advice me but it was OK, Dr behaving in such a way is not worthy after all there words matter a lot for their patients as they total rely on them. Dr could suggest some other option.

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Ritika Singh

Mar 2018

go to another doctor... explain your problem... this isn't the end of the world... and most importantly don't worry.. there was a time when people didn't consulted doctor... only elders and midwives... and the children came absolutely fine... stop worrying now... go to another doctor.. it might be difficult but try to find another doctor...I am sure there would be a someone with adequate humanity... all the best..

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Shipra Rajeev Pathak

Jan 2018

to the lady taking doctor's side dear maam every gyno goes through that pressure but not everyone is a loud mouth then this one
we pay so much fee to then n are well educated ourselves we do not deserve such treatment how could people justify this shame on you for supporting this
even i missed a test due to some reason in my pregnancy n asked of this would be of harm anyway she told calmly that iy wasn't about it was to find if things are alright
see this is the way you treat people who pay you lotsvof money
n are gonna spent fucking lakhs of rupees in an expensive hospital that you would recommend for delivery

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neetu khanduri

Jan 2018

Have u done ur double marker,,, now go to another gyno, n talk about this, u can still do dis, do d test n if u think u should go to earlier doctor fine, otherwise u can still opt for second one, normally d doctor should not change after 7 month

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Richa Sharma Khaneja

Feb 2018

Triple marker test can be done between 15-22weeks. it is mainly to detect any abnormality like down syndrome in baby.so its most imp .But it seems u still have time for the test so why did your doc shouted was not right.Doctors r strict but cannot be rude.Kindly change your doctor

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Dr-rupinder Murjani

Feb 2018

nothing to worry.. and kindly send me the name of the doctor.. I wanted to ask her certain thing at my level. this is not the way she behaved
if you havent done it no Issue.. nothing happen
trust god.. please send me the details of Dr.

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Jaanvi Kotwani

Hello dr.murjani...she is a senior doctor n i dont want to take this issue further. What she did hurt me that time so much that i wrote it here. I dont want any new issues in my pregnancy.i have changed my doctor.thanks that you are concerned about these things.

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Olusola Baruwa Ayodele

Jun 2018

that's sad and unprofessional of your doctor. she should show empathy to her patients and calm the situation not aggravate things.

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Uma Jain

Jan 2018

I don knw what hppn with today’s doc... why d behaving so rude... you hav 2 more week to do this test... find a good doc ... n do d test... it’s for your baby growth...don’t take too much tension dear... it’s not good for you and your baby

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Nisha Kochar

Jun 2018

dear , contact Apollo cradle hospital moti nagar new delhi arpita gangwani , she is the best and very very polite and understanding gyne,if u want I can share contact number,,

and yes I still have time for this test, I have done this test at suraksha path lab janakpuri new delhi at 20th week.. for this test ultrasound report also required, u can also contact star image path lab for this test

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